Why I Am Not Quitting - And Why You Shouldn’t Either
To help me get this point across, let me set the stage with a bit of transparency from my own story. Because of the nature of this post, it’s a bit longer than usual.
The Battle
The past two years and two months of church planting in LA have simultaneously been like the Great Awakening and the Dark Ages. For my team, my wife, and I, we have never seemingly experienced so many wins and losses at almost the same time. While we have rejoiced on the mountain top, we have also become familiar with difficulties in the valley. I have wanted to quit plenty of times, and at one point, during a long night of prayer between the Lord and I, I did quit. Thankfully, by God’s grace, that only lasted one night, and I was restored to the vision quickly.
Yesterday, Jess and I were driving back from a “support-raising” speaking engagement. We had to miss the Clarity service, so I texted my team for a report about how the morning had gone. One of them responded that we were “down in numbers but it was a good morning.” Now, unless you’ve planted a church or led a start up, that may not seem like a big deal to you. For me, I ignored the “it was a good morning” part and this is how I translated the rest in my head… During a time when I was hoping we were growing to a certain size and momentum, we have now had three weeks in a row of being down in numbers. It was like falling back to the difficult times of 2011, all while trying to push with everything I had into a bigger and better 2012.
I was immediately faced with an all-to-familiar mental battle. Maybe I just don’t have what it takes to do this. Soon everyone is going to leave because this just isn’t happening. Maybe I can’t do what others have done. I am just not attracting the blessing of God. I am letting everyone down… my family, my team, my church, my mentors, my supporters. Sound like anything you have ever thought about yourself?
The Shift
As my heart sunk into my stomach and my decent into discouragement commenced, I noticed the beautiful mountains of the Central Coast of California that we were driving by. I noticed the green lush grass on the rolling hills. I noticed the cattle and the horses scattered all around. As we continued to drive, I noticed the vast expanse of the Pacific Ocean, the crashing waves on the shore, and the beaming sun warming up our car. I thought about how God orchestrates it all into perfect harmony. Not only that, He orchestrates all things; this planet, this universe, and all the heavens. Then I heard my daughter laughing and I felt my wife reaching to hold my hand. We exclaimed together the beauty of what we were seeing and experiencing together. I thought, wow, if God can do all this, He can do anything. I began making the healthy shift back to faith in our faithful God.
Then, I remembered an illustration I had just used in my message that morning. It’s about two different orange groves during a drought season. At one grove, all the trees were dying from lack of water. At the other grove, all the tress were healthy; even in the midst of the drought. The difference? When the trees were young, the owner of the grove with the healthy trees would occasionally withhold water from them, forcing them to dig their roots deeper into the soil in search of water. Then, when the drought came, they would still have access to water. The owner, in great wisdom, was enabling the trees to last.
In the message, I encouraged everyone to take heart. I spoke passionately… Even if you are in a season when you feel like the water you need is being withheld, you can rejoice, for God is enabling you to develop deeper roots. He is doing this to prepare you for what is to come; not just the drought, but the greater things. Without these deep roots, you will not be able to handle what God is going to do. So be glad, be full of faith, and rejoice in the wisdom of God as He sovereignly prepares you for tomorrow.
I have used that illustration many times, but I wasn’t really applying it to myself. Our own battles have a way of blinding us to the things we know to be true. Thankfully, by God’s grace in that moment, I was able to take this to heart.
The Point
Robert Frost said, “Lord, help them to lay foundations strong enough to bear the weight You will later place on them.” Jesus said in John 15, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.”
No matter what you are going through, no matter how much you want to stop, and no matter what set-backs have befallen you, keep going. When all you want to do is quit, rejoice that God is enabling you to develop deeper roots for what is to come. There are no losses in God’s playbook. He does it all for a reason. All motion is forward motion. God has you in this moment. Embrace it and send your roots down deep. Have faith. Trust and believe in His plan.
While it is important to start well, it is more important to finish well. A bad finish discredits a good start. Rejoice that God is empowering you to finish well. Not just you, but those that will come after you. Without you developing roots through this season, the generations after you will not be able stand. It’s not just about you. It’s not just about now.
Personally, I know that even if I did quit right now, this burden would remain and I would want to come back to do it all again. I might gain temporary relief, but I would lose long term effectiveness. In regards to this church plant in LA, I have the burden. There are no limits. It is worth fighting for. A prevailing church. A true expression of Jesus in a place that touches the world. It is imperative. Who will fight? Who is called? God, make your deeds famous in our time. May you be clearly seen and known.